Feeling bad doesn’t have to define you. It shouldn’t define you. But those bad feelings need our attention. It’s only when we ignore or try to bury them that like a whack-a-mole they keep popping up.

Everything in my life is a direct result of – who else? – myself. I must take ownership or responsiblity for this. But it’s equally important I release the forms of self-judgment in guilt, shame or blame.

I long for certainty because I want to reduce a certain amount of chaos in my life. But trying to predict what will happen with any certainty is a fruitless endeavor. Not only that but it closes off the possibility that something even more amazing than I can ever imagine could happen. How do I reconcile the craving clarity/imagining certainty issue?

I love the reframing of the words achieve or earn to allow. It’s much more in the flow and less swimming up stream.